First of all, I am not a cheater, nor do I (necessarily) condone it, especially when there's a marriage involved. But articles like this with headings as such ALWAYS catch my eye. I'm like a magnet to scandal, and if there's a sexual element to it, I'm there *snap* like paparazzi. Maybe it's because I'm a hopeless romantic and I'm always on the lookout for love-sparks--even in downright ugly situations (ehem, Tiger anyone?).
There's just a certain appeal to the forbidden for me. The secret glances between two people across a crowded room, with both their significant others nearby. The bumping and grinding on the dance floor with your best friend's SO because the music's hot and the whole room is buzzing with sex (your bff could be dancing with your SO the same way for that matter). Even an affair between two high school sweethearts that's sparked when the woman, who's lived in marital agony for ten years, sees her husband on the street with another woman's tongue in his mouth. (Note the "necessarily" above. This is an instance I have no problem with adultery.)
Like Jake says in the article, there's something very esteem-building about flirting that doesn't really go anywhere and, until he pointed that out, I'd never really been able to put my finger on why I found myself so drawn to it (not so much personally, but more so as the scandal whore I am)--it's definitely the confidence and the "I'm still attractive" feelings that result. I think it's human nature to want to be appealing to those of your sexual orientation--it's a matter of simple biology, really.
Now don't get me wrong, there is definitely a point when this kind of behavior isn't sexy anymore (i.e. Tiger and the spit swapping husband). But up until that line (you know what one I mean...when your conscience starts throwing up red flags?) is crossed, it's hot as hell for me. I'm the kinda of girl who lives for the build up and the anticipation--seriously, it's like an emotional orgasm--but once it's over...it's totally over. That's how I know I'll never cheat on my hubster--I know what I like and it's not on the other side of the fence. It's everything before the fine hair of a line that perfectly bisects that fence.I love this kind of almost-but-not-quite naughtiness so much that I find a way to incorporate it into almost everything I write. For me, there's nothing sweeter--or sexier--than forbidden fruit...as long as you're just tasting and not biting off more than you can chew.
And there you have it...my thoughts on bad behavior and why I don't think Jake is completely the dog he thinks himself to be. :D How about you? Are you an scandal whore, too? And, if you write, is the forbidden storyline one you find yourself to be especially fond of as well?
2 comments:
What a great topic! I too love the forbidden fruit. I like to put my characters in a situation where they absolutely shouldn't be together. And then I make them burn for each other. I push them up to that line and just as they are about to cross it, I yank them back. This way, when I finally let them cross into pure bliss, it is so much sweeter. Flirting is a favorite of mine too. That euphoric high you get from it is, like you say, an emotional orgasm that I can't get enough of. It's a feeling like nothing else and I love reading and writing about it. Guess who's got blog envy now? ;)
I could go on for days about flirting... but I won't. But I would totally agree that there is a certain euphoria garnered from flirting. Show me a girl who doesn't glow even a smidge after a little harmless flirting and I will run down the Las Vegas strip in my birthday suit! ;) Okay maybe not because I don't want to go to jail, nor do I want to scare tourists away....
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